When we talk about self-care, massage may come to mind. Easily $60-100+ per session, we may also find massage to be a luxury. Some prioritize their service once per month with a membership. Others splurge for a special occasion. Understandably, the cost of a massage as self-care can be a barrier to scheduling and it isn’t the only one.
What is massage like for those who’ve experienced a physical or sexual assault trauma? As a therapist, I believe it’s important to recognize the significance of massage for someone who has had their physical space violated. To name how challenging it can be to trust a stranger to touch you and find it relaxing instead of triggering. To acknowledge the effort required to calm the fight or flight reaction with logic, wanting your body to recognize your consent. The involuntary emotions that can surface when a particular part of the body is worked.
It’s something I too can take for granted in embracing massage as part of my self-care. Therefore I want to share some strategies than could help clients find their massage experience healing and empowering in the aftermath of trauma.*
1. Research the Options
Identifying a service provider with additional training related to trauma can be a helpful first step for trauma survivors. Is the massage therapist trained in Trauma Touch Therapy ™ or identifies as a Trauma-informed provider? Does your client feel encouraged to have a conversation on their needs prior to scheduling an appointment? Do they feel open to exploring fit and expectations in order to reduce any anxiety that may be showing up? Additionally, reading client reviews can be a strategy for exploring fit along with asking trusted peers or friends who they recommend.
2. Consider Provider Gender
For some trauma survivors, the gender of the massage therapist may be crucial to their level of comfort. As your client explores their options, can they consider the number of massage therapists available, including skill set, technique, and gender to increase possibility of best fit and feelings of safety?
3. Have a Ritual
Several clients have shared the importance of feeling prepared for their massage experience. This may be as simple as knowing the date is approaching, getting into the right headspace the morning of the appointment, and positive self-talk or visualization to increase their sense of safety and security going into the appointment.
4. Find Your Voice
Massage therapists expect and welcome feedback on massage technique, pressure, pain, and comfort levels. Encourage your client to explore communication in your sessions so they can feel empowered to speak up if something isn’t quite right.
5. Hydrate
Hydration is important for the body to feel more receptive to the massage experience as well as to reduce possible soreness after a massage. Additionally, drinking water calms the body by engaging the parasympathetic nervous system, which encourages the body to return to a calmer state of functioning after fight or flight systems have been activated.
Massage can be a powerful tool for healing and health for trauma survivors.* By exploring the strengths, challenges, and barriers, your client can feel more confident when deciding if massage is right for them.
*Clients have the right to determine what is best for them and should consult their professionals as appropriate.